Being Messy isn't a big deal!
Most of us have had several Kitchen sink problems over the years. Mostly infestation of little winged beasts have taken over the sink area, and the cause was obvious: THE DIRTY DISHES.
There are a few reasons we struggle to wash the dishes in a timely manner. On looking at a messy room, the focus is pulled in 50 different directions. Where a neurotypical character might just start picking up litter or putting items back in their respective places, but most of us get truly deadened by all the possible ways and instead, half of the time, do nothing.
We never knew how to explain that it wasn’t that we are being lazy or careless ― but our brain functions differently. Most women always try to do 15 things at once and to adjust cleaning in between the more important matters of parenting.
On a good day, anyway, when COVID bumped and we were swiftly confined to our homes, the previously iffy housekeeping abilities took a hit. Not only were we trapped in our cramped apartment, but it was also becoming less engaging by the day.
Despite understanding the unique difficulties we data-face when it befalls to domestic chores we always feel deep down that there was something basically wrong that we couldn’t manage the way others seemed to, and that was a permanent, underlying source of shame.
Being messy isn’t a personality failure. Grappling with care tasks happens to lots of adults for all sorts of purposes. Sometimes it’s as manageable as a hectic season of time.
Of course, struggling to keep clean doesn’t mean being a bad person. Dirty sinks don’t say anything about a character. So why have we all been telling ourselves to do with our whole adult life?
A good human being is expected not only to be emotionally present and engaged in the work of parenting but to keep a spotless home and put nutritious meals on the table as well. But either way, one approach rings to be true “shame is the enemy of functioning.”
Rather than feeling shameful, treat others with the same kindness when we fall short of perfection. And in the end, the more valuable lesson learnt is being a human is important than maintaining a spotless sink.
There are a few reasons we struggle to wash the dishes in a timely manner. On looking at a messy room, the focus is pulled in 50 different directions. Where a neurotypical character might just start picking up litter or putting items back in their respective places, but most of us get truly deadened by all the possible ways and instead, half of the time, do nothing.
We never knew how to explain that it wasn’t that we are being lazy or careless ― but our brain functions differently. Most women always try to do 15 things at once and to adjust cleaning in between the more important matters of parenting.
On a good day, anyway, when COVID bumped and we were swiftly confined to our homes, the previously iffy housekeeping abilities took a hit. Not only were we trapped in our cramped apartment, but it was also becoming less engaging by the day.
Despite understanding the unique difficulties we data-face when it befalls to domestic chores we always feel deep down that there was something basically wrong that we couldn’t manage the way others seemed to, and that was a permanent, underlying source of shame.
Being messy isn’t a personality failure. Grappling with care tasks happens to lots of adults for all sorts of purposes. Sometimes it’s as manageable as a hectic season of time.
Of course, struggling to keep clean doesn’t mean being a bad person. Dirty sinks don’t say anything about a character. So why have we all been telling ourselves to do with our whole adult life?
A good human being is expected not only to be emotionally present and engaged in the work of parenting but to keep a spotless home and put nutritious meals on the table as well. But either way, one approach rings to be true “shame is the enemy of functioning.”
Rather than feeling shameful, treat others with the same kindness when we fall short of perfection. And in the end, the more valuable lesson learnt is being a human is important than maintaining a spotless sink.